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THIS IS HOW YOU HANDLE THE STRESS IN WEDDING PLANNING
Lhia Ubaldo | April 2, 2020
“Weddings always look so dreamy and pretty on the outside. But once you go in and you’re knee-deep in this whole wedding planning thing, reality sets in.”
You don’t have to be told twice that planning a wedding is hard and exhausting. There’s a ton of pressure involved in making that day special and memorable. But as exciting and as meaningful as it is, it can get pretty stressful. Between finding a venue and church, coming up with the guest list, making sure that you pick out best-tasting dishes on the catering and not to mention your gown and all… You expect everything to run smoothly and that it will be the happiest day of your life. And if not, well, it can get frustrating and downright shameful, even.
But do not fret, before you start to worry how everything might not go the way you have planned, here are ways to keep calm and plan on:
RECOGNIZE THE SYMPTOMS
Pre-wedding stress can sneak in without you realizing it. You might not notice that you are now anxious to invite a certain relative or friend, you are now getting worried on your budget and you might panic and cross out certain suppliers for not meeting your standard. And according to WebMD, stress is everywhere. So, the first step to controlling your stress is identifying the symptoms. But recognizing stress symptoms may be harder than you think. Most of us are so used to being stressed, we often don’t know we are stressed until we are at the breaking point.
What are the warning signs that you may be overdoing it? Common pre-wedding stress symptoms include:
- Feeling burnt out or exhausted
- Anxiety and panic attacks
- Mood swings
- Headaches and stomach aches
- Trouble sleeping
- Second guessing every wedding decision
If you have 2-4 of these symptoms, you better pause for a moment, take a deep breath and try to calm yourself down.
PRIORITIZE THE ESSENTIALS
Your to-do list is a mess, and you’ve only got a faint idea how to prioritize your tasks for your wedding. But luckily, here’s a task prioritizing method from former U.S President Dwight D. Eisenhower:
In 1954, he said:
“I have two kinds of problems: the urgent and the important. The urgent are not important, and the important are never urgent.”
So in other words, if you think it’s both important and urgent, do it now. If it’s important but not urgent, decide when to do it. Urgent but not important, you can delegate it to a trusted friend or family member. We’re sure they don’t mind especially if that’s their line of expertise. And lastly, if it’s not important and it’s not urgent delete or cross that out of your list of things to do and get a move on. Remember, time’s a ticking!
STAY FIRM AND CLEAR WITH YOUR DECISIONS AND STICK TO IT
Clarity is the key. Stay calm and retain control. There will be voices in your head when it comes to planning and it’s easy to be pulled in many directions but the best thing to do is stay calm and be firm in all of this. The bible also said in the book of James, “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.” Don’t be that person.
CREATE PLAN B (JUST IN CASE)
Sometimes, things happen and it’s just out of our control. It’s always good to be prepared for the worst-case scenarios, and having a back-up plan will ease your mind. At least you’ll have two options if the other one didn’t go as you’ve planned.
Never lose sight of why you are doing and planning all of this with your soon to be spouse—why you are enduring all of this stress and how you arrived at this point. It’s easy to get lost in all the decision-making and you can get swept up in the details; deciding on the venue, the cake, who to invite, the food, the wedding giveaways, etc. But remember that the things that were mentioned above are not going to make a lot of difference to the rest of your lives. It’s just part of the proceedings but what will always matter is your relationship as husband and wife.
GET GOOD SLEEP
Getting enough sleep is absolutely crucial for your emotional and physical health. Experts say that not getting enough sleep causes and triggers anxiety. If you have trouble sleeping, we recommend creating a ‘before bed’ sleep ritual designed to help you unwind. So put down your notebook and stop stressing over your wedding invitation design and take a nice hot bath and turn on some music, read your favourite book or watch your favourite movie—anything to help you settle into a gentle, restful sleep.
DON’T FORGET TO GO ON A DATE
We’ve asked and confirmed with some couples that planning a wedding puts a strain on their relationship. So maybe it’s time to pause for a while and have a date night with your partner where you can enjoy each other’s company. After all, you’re getting married because you love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together. Take time to recharge together and enjoy each other’s company, away from the bustle of wedding planning.
FINAL THOUGHTS: If you’re thinking ‘this wedding stress is making me ill’, it’s time to stop and reflect on how you can make this process easier on yourself.